A friend told me that his child's school complained that his son is "tutored up," which is a term of derision used by teachers and school officials. Never heard it before, but perhaps it's something I missed by not having children. Anyway, he's tutored up because he's got AD/HD* and his private school has no special assistance for that. So a tutor works though his homework with him every afternoon. Helps him a great deal, but the school doesn't like tutored up students who don't learn through the experience of failure. My rhetorical question to my friend: do they know how many kids chronically fail and don't learn a damn thing from the experience of repeated academic failure, other than learning that they're failures?
*Whatever you think of the AD/HD diagnosis, whether it's giving a diagnosis to normal variation or something that should be considered a disorder, the fact is that this is a very smart kid, with a good heart, but he is a distracted shambles who is constantly into things that could turn bad, but he fails to foresee the destructive possibilities. Conventional school environments are exceedingly difficult for children like him, but with lots of structure and close supervision, he does well.