Cheryl Fuller has another post that I highly recommend:
I think the most frequent problem young therapists have is feeling they have to *do* something, especially something to make the patient feel better. It is difficult to allow a person sitting across from you to be sad, crying, unhappy, discouraged. The urge is strongly present to say something or suggest something that will make him feel better, because we therapists like to feel useful and helpful. Lacking procedures to perform, we attempt interventions of other kinds, assigning homework and the like in an effort to take away the sting, the weight of those feelings with which we ourselves are uncomfortable. I suspect one of the attractions of cognitive behavioral approaches, for new therapists especially, is that it provides interventions and strategies for alleviating discomfort.
But isn't that what therapy is all about, you may ask?
And the answer is sometimes.
"The principle aim of psychotherapy is not to transport one to an impossible state of happiness, but to help (the client) acquire steadfastness and patience in the face of suffering." -C.G. Jung