Good grief! There's even a sex tape. Going back to 2004, I never liked John Edwards. It was a visceral thing. Edwards always struck me as insincere. I didn't despise him; I just didn't like him.
Overheard While Grocery Shopping
A woman, early twenties, talking on her phone: I'm not saying they don't love each other. They probably would have gotten married anyway, but I'll bet she got pregnant to speed up the wedding.
I haven't the slightest idea of whether or not that assessment of the situation is correct, but the comment reminded me that endings are in beginnings. A manipulative deception at the start of a marriage spells trouble. Perhaps the person we overheard had some sort of ax to grind and the couple she was discussing will be fine.
Weddings bring out the best and worst in people.
A long time ago, a young couple planned for their big wedding for well over a year. They had been dating for five years previous to their engagement. The bride's sister, older by two years, dated a lot, but hadn't found the right guy. Six months before younger sister's scheduled wedding, elder sister met someone and was engaged within four weeks. Almost everyone was puzzled by the match-up. He seemed like the kind of man she'd never have given a second look in the past. He was over the moon, even saying how lucky he was because she was "out of his league."
Wouldn't you know it, elder sister's own big wedding was held two weeks before younger sister's wedding. Younger sister handled the situation with astonishing dignity and magnanimity.
A similar thing happened in my family, but a faked pregnancy was used as a device to move the wedding into first position. From the start, the marriage was haunted by manipulation, jealousy and lies.
It's worth remembering that nothing lasting is built on quicksand.