Midweek, two men, late 20s to early 30s:
Man 1: She has you on a pedestal
Man 2: That's why I'm nervous. She's a cocked and loaded gun.
I didn't hear what came before, but I gather Man 2 sees the pedestal as a very dangerous place. Indeed, it can be.
Then, yesterday, a mother and daughter:
Daughter: I hate coffee.
Mother: Say: 'I dislike.' Don't be a hater.
To some, mother may sound a bit silly here, but ponder her statement in terms of the concern raised in the first overheard quote above, specifically the concern about the danger of the all-or-nothing thinking associated with psychological splitting.
Mother is intuitively prodding daughter toward modulation of natural extremes in her mental life. Daughter was quite young and I suspect that she's had, at most, only a sip of coffee. It isn't surprising that she wouldn't like it, but this brief interaction is less about coffee than it is daughter's incremental preparation for life and her growing capacity to sustain relationships, moving from a more primitive, inflexible adaptive style, toward greater adaptability and resilience.
Such parental prodding would usually play better in a very low-stakes interaction, one in which daughter didn't appear to have a great deal of emotional investment. Mom's modulating function could more readily be integrated than it could be if the child was raging about something or someone. How the bigger issues are handled certainly matters a great deal, but emotional baby steps also play their part in development. They're like mini-practices lessons on the fly.
Since this is the internet, I suppose I should add that lots of factors complicate the internalization of mother's communications and there is more to psychological development than straightforward parental prodding. A great deal of what transpires is unconscious and unique to each parent-child relationship, and, even given the subject of the post, it must still be said that predominantly helpful interactions may still contain both good and bad emotional implications. Fortunately, good enough is good. In fact, it's better than perfection would be, if perfection were achievable.
More about splitting as a defense and as an aspect of normal development.